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Week 11- Active Parenting

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  In a world where technology is increasingly taking over much of our attention as a society on a regular basis, it is no wonder why people feel a lack of attention in most aspects of their life. Now more than ever you often times can’t even get through a conversation without receiving at least one notification. Regardless of if you check it or not at each buzz your mind is tugged from the current conversation and sharing focus with the new notification. A notification doesn’t have to stop at one buzz. We all have been in a group chat that does not stop “blowing up” and even in the midst of deep conversation our minds can become very distracted.  This has been a new challenge in parenting over the years and is showing the in the behavior of the children of this generation. Michael Popkin has created an Active Parenting Program that takes out the feelings of lacking attention and puts in the feelings of comradery between parents and children. It is likely that undesirable or “bad behavi
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Week 10- Fathers and Mothers Have a Great Role in the Lives of their Children

One of my very favorite church songs is titled, “The Family is of God” in this song there is a great reminder of the eternal and heavenly purpose of both mothers and fathers in a family. The lyrics are as follows, “2. A father’s place is to preside, provide, To love and teach the gospel to his children. A father leads in fam’ly prayer to share Their love for Father in Heaven. 3. A mother’s purpose is to care, prepare, To nurture and to strengthen all her children. She teaches children to obey, to pray, To love and serve in the fam’ly.” From a gospel perspective it is very easy to see that there is a great purpose and need for both a father and mother in the home. Their relationship should work together, hand in hand to rear their children to be able to return with Heavenly Father.  In The Family: A proclamation to the World there are so many additional points of information on how mothers and fathers should work together, their roles as parents and right that children have to be born w
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Week 9- Effective Communication

 “Christlike communications are expressions of affection and not anger, truth and not fabrication, compassion and not contention, respect and not ridicule, counsel and not criticism, correction and not condemnation.” – Elder L. Lionel Kendrick  The power of healthy communication and how to fix unhealthy communication was the main topic of this week’s class discussion. There are many different forms of communication otherwise known as media, some being words, tone, and non-verbal communication. It was startling to see the impact that words, tone, and non-verbal communication have on the way that we make sense of communication around us. Words constitutes 14% while tone is 35% and non-verbal cues is 51% equaling 100% of our interpretation. When words and tone contradict each other, we will focus more on the tone that someone is using rather than the words they are speaking. We often see problems of this when people are using sarcasm. With sarcasm the words being spoken are said in a joki
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Week 8- Stress Doesn't Have to Define Us

As college aged married and young single adults many of us believe that if we could just get money that the majority of our stress would deplete. Or if we just could get a good job, nice house and get a head start on our family goals life would become picture perfect. However, more often than not that just simply isn’t the case. All those things may help but the test of mortality is not to sail through life rather to go through trials and hardships that will draw us closer to our family and ultimately God.  Each of us have different stressors in our own life and we each deal with them in significantly different ways. To one person your load of stress may seem a little bit easier while to another person the load that you are caring would cripple them. This brings in the factor of comparison. Ryan Michael Hawks said, “Stop comparing yourself to others. The results of our comparisons are usually inaccurate because we usually match up our worst with their best. In reality, the person we wi
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Week 7- Sexual Intimacy

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In class this week we covered a very heavy topic. Mainly for the fact that there are so many views on sexual intimacy. Being a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, it is a topic that we hold very sacred. We are commanded and covenant to not participate in sexual relations to those we are not legally married to. The law of chastity is a law that member covenant to keep remaining worthy in the eyes of God.  From the gospel library, “Chastity is sexual purity. Those who are chaste are morally clean in their thoughts, words, and actions. Chastity means not having any sexual relations before marriage. It also means complete fidelity to husband or wife during marriage.” By this definition we understand that sexual intimacy is much more than sexual intercourse and can often begin to enter the mind long before any actions take place.  BYU and BYUI have been the rolling joke of the nation among young single adults for creating new terms and participating in many differen
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Week 6- Love in all Forms

In Greek studies we learn about 4 different types of love. Eros from Greek philosophy means sensual or passionate love. Agape is a word coming from the New Testament the father love for humans that God has as well at the reverse love of humans reciprocated love back to God. Next is Storge which is defined as a natural or instinctual affection between parents and offspring and vice versa. This type of love is also one that is a correcting kind of love, a motivating love and a love that desires the best of the other person with full support and love regardless of actions. This is also a type of love that is emulating of Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. From a social scientific standpoint, we can also assume that this is the love that is part of an authoritative parenting style that emulates high standards as well has high levels of love. It is working together to get through hard trials as well grow in actions. The fourth type of love is Philia that is translated to the “highest form of
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Week 5- Build Healthy Relationships and Avoid the Jerks

Most everyone wants to avoid being a jerk at all costs, but even more, everyone wants to avoid falling in love with a jerk. Of course, we all have our days where we could be a little bit nicer to the people around us or refrain from a snarky comment or two. However, those things do not make you a jerk, so give yourself more credit and let me help you truly understand who Dr. John Van Epp is calling a jerk. Merriam Webster dictionary defines a jerk as: an unlikable person especially: one who is cruel, rude, or small-minded. a selfish jerk. Dr. Van Epp defines a jerk as: “… Somebody who has a significant or serious problem area with their personality and has no intention of altering it. A jerk is the person who, deep down inside, is not willing to change something that hurts the person they're in a relationship with.” The biggest difference that I find between the two is the consistency in which negative actions are shown and the lack in desire to change such actions even after they
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